Three Obstacles to Success in Al-Anon*
All Al-Anon discussions should be constructive, helpful, loving,
and understanding. In striving toward these ideals, we avoid topics
that can lead to dissension and distract us from our goals.
- Discussions of religion: Al-Anon is not allied with any sect
or denomination. It is a spiritual program, based on no particular
form of religion. Everyone is welcome, no matter what
affiliation or none. Let us not defeat our purpose by entering
into discussions concerning specific religious beliefs. - Gossip: We meet to help ourselves and others learn and use
the Al-Anon philosophy. In such groups, gossip can have no
part. We do not discuss members or others, and particularly
not the alcoholic. Our dedication to anonymity gives people
confidence in Al-Anon. Careless repeating of matters heard
at meetings can defeat the very purposes for which we are
joined together. - Dominance: Our leaders are trusted servants; they do not
govern. No member of Al-Anon should direct, assume authority
or give advice. Our program is based on suggestion, interchange
of experience, and rotation of leadership. We progress
in our own way and pace. Any attempt to manage or direct
is likely to have disastrous consequences for group harmony.